In which FHC tells the truth about gay friendship

L and I chatted a little by e-mail this morning as he was returning home seriously wasted from Mrs. B’s birthday diner and I was waking up very early to face my responsibilities once again and take the lead into making our couple a worthy household contributing to society. On the ebay level, it has been quite an interesting day if you must know; I just overpaid a 1975 photography of a young Robert Kennedy Jr. (why???) as well as some useless papers such as some old bond certificates. In other news of importance, I scored another (unconvinced) reader but this one is British, I ran into a commercial sex worker in the elevator and some old friend of mine contacted me after years incommunicado (to tell me “You can meet my husband E...”).

Strong gay friendships are strange as they always contain some underlying sexual attraction (which might explain why I have almost no friends and LL has so many particularly lately). Most gay men have difficulties to create bonds with anybody they would not sleep with if there was an opportunity. The attraction might fade with time of course but I believe that at the core of most major gay friendships there is potentially an unbelievable good f*ck. I am actually totally in favor of sleeping with friends (as well as extended family numbers and homeless people but that’s more difficult to defend) and would even characterize it as a healthy behavior. I know there is this huge conspiracy out there which tells you, you shouldn’t but it’s all lies propagated by the Catholic Church (a bit like waiting a few dates before putting out: stupid). If it screws the friendship for a few days, you just pop a Xanax. If you are interested with that topic, consider further reading. L: this does not apply to you.

Comments

[LL]

You might want to ask our friend Fagat about sleeping with homeless people.

[MegaDCFag (Reloaded)]

Dear FHC,

I take your word.

regards,

MDCF

[SteveT]

Hmmm - I've always felt it safer to sleep with friends as well. In my teens and early 20s, I hardley dated, but had regular sex with friends of mine... In my mind, I didn't have the time or energy to put towards a relationship, but wanted intimacy.

I believe that intimacy is better wth someone you at least know... and even better with someone you actually like. Not to mention physical safety.

Sleeping with friends worked out well for me - except for one friendship I very nearly lost... teaching me that you must be honest at all costs. Honest with whomever you're sleeping with, and honest with yourself.

Now, I've found someone willing to stick around for the long term, so all my friends can now relax and not read into every sideways glance I give them...

-spt